The best ways to not feel lonely when you live alone
Pleasant stay Corporate Housing staff knows that staying away from home can make you feel lonely sometimes ..so we gathered some things you can use to make it go away or at least reduce that feeling . we will do our most best to make you feel at home.
Whether by choice or by circumstance, living alone has a lot of advantages. But perhaps one of the most subtle yet saddest disadvantages is sometimes feeling lonely. And though occasional feelings of loneliness are natural, why feel lonely when you don't have to? There are things you can do to create a home that repels loneliness when you live solo.
This is the most important one in my opinion. I think you need to throw your curtains open every day. Let the light in. Open the door and say hello to your neighbors. Make your outdoor area (even if it's just a tiny balcony) not some dirt-building storage space, but a place you can sit in and observe the world. When you live alone, it can be easy to shut yourself into your own world. Which is fun sometimes, but can magnify any insecurities and regrets, making them seem bigger than they are. Opening yourself and your home up to the world helps keep things in perspective and reminds us all that even if we feel alone sometimes, we're not.
Try new things
It's hard to feel lonely when you're trying to master a new skill, practice a hobby or try out a new recipe. When it comes to keeping loneliness at bay, one of the best ways to do it is to occupy your time with things that feel enriching, creative and exciting.
Know your loneliness triggers and how to fight them
One of the best things about living with someone in my opinion (either a roommate or a partner) is having someone to greet you when you get home and someone to talk about your day with. A little hard when you come home to empty rooms. So combat that by scheduling a call with a good friend. Or sending a text to your mom when you get home, asking her how her day went. It might be the lack of connection that bums you out about living alone sometimes, or it could be something else. Try to identify what it about living alone that sometimes makes you sad. To do so, try to think back about times you did feel lonely. Was it when you found yourself bored? Always have a hobby and some supplies around you can work on. Consider what it is that bugs you most about living alone and have ways to combat it.
Make daily rituals that underscore the joys of living alone
Love to dance in your skivvies to Beyonce every morning? Embarrassing if you've got roommates, totally cool if the only person to see your moves is yourself. Think about what it is that you LOVE about living alone and try to find ways to indulge in it every day. If it's walking around with a face mask that makes you look like a horror movie character, go for it! If it's eating right out of the ice cream container, go for it (though for your diet's sake, perhaps in moderation). Pets are importantFor those of you who consider pets people (like myself), having pets means you definitely don't live alone, because they are great companions to talk to. But for those whom a cat or dog is out of the question, don't forget about smaller more manageable pets like fish (in small bowls) or even just installing bird feeders near a window. It's that interaction with a live thing other than yourself that can definitely stave off loneliness.
Entertain more often (or at all)
The best way to not feel lonely when you live alone? Fill up your home with people you like and find interesting on occasion. Remember that you don't have to have some formal dinner party — just inviting a few friends over to play board games is a great way to bring laughter and conversation into your home.
Learn to have fun by yourself again
This was perhaps the most important method I used to overcome my loneliness.
When we lose friends or family members, or simply drift away from everyone around us, we tend to lose all sense of fun and playfulness, preferring to wallow in our misery instead. Realize that you can have fun alone, and that you don't need to rely on others to make you happy. The person who can enjoy life alone can never have happiness taken away from them - to truly understand this is liberating!
I started by sticking flyers about diarrhea all over the walls and mirrors of a woman's bathroom. I never knew fecal matter could be so freeing! Start by doing something small that you enjoy. If you used to like being wacky, be wacky. If you used to like being reckless, be reckless. Take small steps first.
Regain what you have lost, by yourself. You will be a stronger and better person that way. Why? Because you won't rely on, or use, other people for your entertainment.
Learn to laugh again
As you may know, laughing has been scientifically proven to benefit your health. But what happens when you're lonely? Well, chances are, you don't laugh. At all. I didn't.
When you really think about it, it's pitiful how much we rely on others to make us happy. That's why learning how to laugh again, by yourself is so important. It empowers you, and once again, it allows you to not use other people for your entertainment. They're not vending machines after all!
If you find it hard to laugh at yourself, try putting on a funny film. Not only does it take your focus away from yourself and your misery, but it reboots those endorphins in your brain again. Funny pictures can also help, like those found onthis website. Thank god for LOLCats.
Have intimate time. Alone
I realize how intimidating that sounds. Don't worry, I'm not suggesting you have a downstairs rendezvous or anything (although that could help).
My definition of intimate time is spending quality time with yourself, just like with a friend, or someone you love. I did this by spending a few minutes every day looking at myself in a mirror. I understand how bizarre that sounds, but staring deeply into your eyes and smiling everyday really makes you feel happy.
One result of this strange practice of mine was increased self-acceptance. Every day we tend to look at ourselves in mirrors to pamper and preen, but only superficially. But have you ever stopped to stare at yourself - earnestly? Try it, and you may be blown away at how much self-awareness you develop.
Become your own best friend
I'm sure you've had a best friend in the past that now, for one reason or another, has drifted away. How did they treat you? Most people would say something along the lines of "nicely", "considerately", or "kindly".
Is that the way you treat yourself? If not, why? Why can't you be your own best friend? What is it about yourself that you're so insecure or hateful about? Don't you deserve love and respect just like everyone else? Exactly.
But many people falsely believe that a best friend can only be someone else. This is an absurd idea, because how can you learn to love and appreciate people truly, if first you don't love and appreciate yourself?
Treat yourself kindly. Compliment yourself. Be considerate towards yourself, and show respect. This is the foundation of self-love.
Become your own counselor
This is extremely important if you want to learn how to survive loneliness.
The most detestable thing in the world to me is to listen to people who moan and complain about their problems, but don't stop to question why they're happening, or what they can do to solve them. For gods sake, you have a brain, so use it! It's natural for us to complain - it can be therapeutic - but constant whinging is a mental disorder that needs to be diagnosed.
Becoming your own counselor is invaluable because it allows you to explore your problems, rather than wallowing in them. Think: why are you lonely? When did it start? How are you feeling? Why are you feeling that way? What can you do to solve your loneliness? By the way, cudos for checking out this article, because in a sense, you're being your own counselor now.
Analyzing your problems really does help put them into new perspectives. When I experienced loneliness I read self-help books, wrote in journals and mapped out my issues on pieces of paper to give them a visual perspective. The more I analyzed them and looked at them with different perspectives, the easier I found it to address my inner turmoil.
Be near people
By nature, we're social beings - it's hardwired into us to crave the physical, emotional and psychological company of fellow human beings, hence the existence of loneliness. So go out and be near people.
If going out with your so called "friends" alienates and depresses you, like it did with me, go and sit anonymously in a public space. This way you can entertain yourself by people watching, and be in close proximity with other people. Although this doesn't necessarily cater to your emotional and psychological needs, it's a start, and was something I found useful in my loneliness.
Volunteer or join an interest group. Get out of your comfort zone.
There are many beautiful, kindred souls to be found in volunteering circles and interest groups. In fact, if you're looking for a friend, this is the perfect way to meet new people. Loneliness tricks you into thinking that everyone is alike and that you won't ever be able to find a kindred soul. Well you're wrong. I had immense, horrifically mammoth expectations of people and managed to find someone who complemented me perfectly (Sol), after creating a meetup group of my own.
There is a kindred soul out there somewhere who understands your plights, who can echo your thoughts and who can connect with you in ways you wouldn't think were even possible. I'm testimony to that.
Take care of yourself, physically
Neglecting yourself when you feel down is tempting. Of what consequence are you when the whole world is dark, dreary and crumbling into a void of emptiness? None. But taking care of your body is the beginning of recovery. So be playful. Lighten up.Your body deserves comfort, grooming and pleasure.
Have a bubble bath. Lie on a soft pillow. Buy yourself a nice treat. Get a massage. Do your hair. Drink some tea or fine wine. The more I respected my body, the more I found respect for myself in honoring my comfort and taking care of my needs.
Listen to calming music
Don't make the mistake of listening to depressing, dark music to match your mood. It can be extremely tempting to do this, and I gave into the temptation many times.
However, in the end, I found that listening to soul-soaring music was the healthiest, and wisest choice. Whether it be pop, classical or ambient, listening to upbeat music actually increases the endorphins (the happy chemicals) in your brain.
Personally, my favorite thing was to get up YouTube and listen to ambient music playlists. If you want some keyword suggestions for YouTube, try "ambient music", "harp music", "dulcimer music", "hang drum music", and "singing bowl music". All of these instruments are beautifully ethereal and will quickly take you beyond yourself.
Learn to love joy more than misery
It's quite possible that you're in love with your misery at this very moment in time.
I know this sounds bizarre, but I thank Sol for his article which explains this in depth more, and for the development of this thought.
Unconsciously, I realized that I was accustoming myself too much to a miserable way of life. After a while, when all we know is isolation and depression, we tend to grow accustomed to this way of living. It becomes the norm. And in a sickly way, it even provides us with comfort. This means that when we try to break our "norm" of isolation and depression we become uncomfortable, suddenly thrown out of our comfort zone. This can lead to self-sabotaging behavior, and to unconscious decisions to find excuses to be comfortable in our misery again. Becoming aware of this can truly liberate you when learning how to survive loneliness.
I hope these suggestions were, and continue to be helpful to you.
If you have any tips on how to survive loneliness, please feel free to share them below. Pleasant Stay Corporate Housing Houston Branch
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